A Private Moment

I don't know if this is true for all moms, but it's certainly true in my home: the second I head to the bathroom my children come looking for me. They could be deeply involved in play or a show on TV, but inevitably the second my cheeks hit the seat one of my children comes busting through the door with some request or another.

"Tyler took my toy!"

"Mom, can I have a snack?"

"Luke hit me!"

"I want to be with you, Mom."

"What are you doing in here?"

That's just the first five I can think of off the top of my head. It's not like I'm in there for a substantial length of time as I know from experience that if they don't know where I am they come looking for me. I've even tried warning them before I head in, "Mom is going to the bathroom for a minute. I will be right out. Don't come looking for me. If you're not bleeding or it's not on fire, it can wait until I come out."

But do they wait? Never. Someone always comes in crying or wanting me for something. What's even more amazing is that it even happens when their father is home. They will completely bypass their father -- who they have to pass to get to me -- to make their requests to me in person. Not sure what that's all about.

I know you're thinking: Lock the door. I've tried that. Mostly that just leads to me having to shout through the door at them and the foreseeable "What's?" that follow. Honestly it's easier if they can actually come in the room so that I can explain to them without screaming that they need to wait until I come out. Who knew that by becoming a mother that I was giving up my rights to uninterrupted and private bathroom time?

Maybe next time I'll try locking my bedroom door too? Or maybe the neighbors would let me use their facilities? Their father can be in there for 45 minutes and they don't ever bother him. I certainly know what it is to be needed.

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[Marcia Feisal]

This too shall pass. I promise. Someday you will miss those little voices so much and your house will nearly echo with the silence of your empty nest.

That said, I love this phase of life. I think it is the best time of our marriage because it is all about us and one another again for the first time since our oldest was born 28 years ago.